Transcript [00:00] But something happened when I was [00:02] Magaya. [00:03] During the process my parents were [00:06] as I started telling them about it. [00:08] First obviously they were upset. [00:11] And then there was a level of [00:13] understanding, maybe respect. They came [00:16] over at the time to meet my rabbi. They [00:19] came over to see the community I was a [00:21] part of and they left feeling a sense of [00:24] [music] relief that I wasn't joining a [00:26] cult or anything like that. But my mom [00:28] told me something. The next day she [00:30] phoned me up and she said I need to tell [00:32] you a story [00:34] about Rebecca. [00:36] >> There's a woman Peter has never met [00:38] whose name he doesn't even know and [00:40] she's the only reason he is alive today. [00:42] This episode is brought to you by our [00:43] good friends at Wheel Source Lease, BF [00:45] Design, Cole Chabad, Woodmont College [00:48] and Qualify. This episode is dedicated [00:50] to the Ilu Nishmas Miriam Sarah bas [00:52] Yaakov Moshe and Shimon Dovid Yaakov [00:53] Shleima. We have never had an episode [00:56] like this. Here we go. Pete Gaffney [00:59] originally [01:00] >> from Australia and I know there's a lot [01:01] in between then and now. Could you take [01:03] us through your childhood, where you [01:04] grew up exactly and what was life like? [01:06] >> Sure. Thanks for having me firstly. [01:09] So I grew up in Brisbane, Australia, [01:11] which is the third biggest city in [01:13] Australia. [01:15] Born [01:17] in '82 so I'm 44, turning 44. And grew [01:21] up with loving parents. [01:23] Um [01:24] a great childhood, a childhood [01:26] Queensland, which is where Brisbane is [01:28] very hot state, like Florida. Um so a [01:30] lot of outdoor sport. I was big into [01:33] football or what you'd call soccer and [01:35] cricket um and swimming and just a great [01:39] environment um and um very fun memories [01:44] of my time in in Australia. Um [01:48] at the time I was building a sort of [01:51] semi-professional [01:53] footballing career, soccer career, which [01:55] was going well and around the age of 19 [01:59] had a knee reconstruction from a tackle [02:02] which ended my footballing career. Um [02:05] and the following year I was studying [02:07] sports science then at the time. [02:09] Following year at the age of 20, I moved [02:11] to London for a holiday. [02:13] I thought I would just go over it for 3 [02:15] or 4 months. Fast forward a little bit, [02:17] I've been in London for 24 years now. So [02:19] it it's been a long time and [02:22] um I go home to Australia [02:24] to visit my family every year, which is [02:26] great. But um yeah, my origins are of [02:30] Australian roots and I moved to London [02:32] in 2002. [02:34] >> So could you take us through your [02:36] religious level and [02:38] >> Sure. So I came from what you would call [02:41] a devout Catholic family in Australia. [02:44] Um I'm remember as a as a child being an [02:46] altar boy in church and going to a [02:50] all-boys um Catholic school. [02:53] And yeah, very religious um [02:55] sincere sort of parents. I would see my [02:58] parents praying every morning. We had a [03:00] lot of psukim around the house [03:03] um which I never used to pay much [03:04] attention to. [03:05] Um but um [03:08] yeah, religion was definitely a big part [03:10] of my life. Going to church every Sunday [03:13] and then for the big sort of Catholic [03:15] holidays, Easter and and and Christmas [03:18] going to celebration there. Um [03:21] but like most young 20-year-olds when [03:24] you you move away, you sort of get a [03:27] little bit of freedom and you know, [03:28] church wasn't something that I really [03:31] then pursued once I moved to London. [03:33] Uh it wasn't something that [03:36] I think unlike Yiddishkeit, it's you [03:39] know, and you've probably had this with [03:41] multiple guests without having that [03:44] direction and that framework and that [03:46] structure which leading an Orthodox life [03:48] gives you, [03:50] it's it's quite hard to stay [03:53] maybe maybe as you get older it's not [03:54] but as a younger person to stay on on [03:56] track and to stay focused when there is [03:58] no sort of blueprint so to speak. [04:00] >> That's right. [04:01] >> So, my [04:03] I moved to London 2002 [04:06] and I started working as a as a personal [04:08] trainer in um [04:09] one of the big health clubs in the UK. [04:13] Was there for 5 years. Um that was then [04:15] bought out by Richard Branson by Virgin [04:18] the Virgin brand and worked there. And [04:20] then um in 2007 [04:22] I started my own fitness brand um [04:26] personal training PGPT. [04:28] Um and at the same time I started [04:31] developing a relationship with a rabbi [04:34] who I was looking after his fitness. [04:37] I'm an inquisitive guy. I like to ask [04:39] questions. I would often ask him about [04:43] what's this festival coming up? [04:45] Pesach what's that what's that all about [04:47] and [04:49] um what does it mean to be Orthodox and [04:52] just very very interested [04:54] in inquisitive. [04:57] And then he lost his mother. [05:00] So, I thought you know what? I want to [05:02] go and pay my respects. [05:04] I think Google was just out. This is [05:06] like 18 years ago. [05:08] And I thought I quickly Googled, you [05:11] know, what do you need to do at a shiva [05:13] and I remember clearly [05:15] it saying don't engage in conversation. [05:18] >> Spot on. [05:18] >> Yeah, wait for them to speak to you. [05:21] So, I went to the shiva and the next day [05:23] I was actually flying to Australia for a [05:25] holiday to visit my my family. [05:28] And I went to the shiva and it hit me. [05:32] And at this stage I'd been living in [05:34] England for 6 years. Um [05:37] and I was starting to look maybe for [05:41] purpose in my own life. The sort of the [05:44] younger me was wearing off in terms of [05:47] you know, the partying and and looking [05:49] for for purpose, direction. And I went [05:52] to this Shiva and something hit me when [05:55] I was there, which was [05:57] all these people that were coming to be [05:59] menachem aveilim [06:01] for this rabbi from all walks of life [06:04] that had been with him in Yeshiva, had [06:05] been with him in high school, [06:07] had done business dealings with him, had [06:09] been with him in the community. And [06:11] fundamentally that that really hit me. [06:13] This sense of community and this sense [06:16] of of achdus, of this oneness that [06:19] everyone [06:20] everyone had. [06:22] And I remember driving [06:23] from there straight to a [06:25] a Jewish bookshop. [06:27] And I bought this book, which is called [06:29] This Is My God by Herman Wouk. [06:32] And I got on the plane and [06:34] England to Australia is a long flight, [06:35] 24 hours. [06:37] And I got on the plane and I and I read [06:39] that book [06:40] cover to cover. [06:42] And I was definitely [06:44] interested, but I didn't really know [06:47] interested in [06:49] in what yet. But I had a spark. [06:52] And that spark developed into [06:55] talking to him more, researching, [06:57] learning my my [06:59] you know, doing my own research. [07:02] And I felt like I wanted to have [07:04] that [07:06] religion in my life again. Um but there [07:08] was something [07:10] missing about the Catholicism, about the [07:12] Christianity. [07:15] Great background, great great, you know, [07:16] childhood, but that that was something [07:18] that I I was searching for. [07:20] >> Right, it wasn't working for you. [07:21] >> Yeah, it wasn't working for me. And so [07:25] about it was probably about 3 months [07:27] after that Shiva [07:30] where I wrote my first letter to the [07:31] Beis Din. [07:33] And you know, the process of the Beis [07:34] Din, you know, they definitely don't [07:36] encourage and they're they're they're [07:37] not the quickest at responding, but by [07:40] nature I'm quite a pragmatic guy, and I [07:42] I I'm tactless. I push forward pretty [07:45] quickly with stuff. So, I was always [07:47] sort of [07:49] pushing further and further, and and [07:51] knowing that this was actually there was [07:53] a real sense of something was drawing me [07:55] towards Yiddishkeit. [07:57] And to Judaism. [07:58] >> The episode is just warming up, but [07:59] first, here's the worst errand in the [08:02] world, car shopping. You give up a whole [08:04] day at a dealership, or you on the [08:06] phone, the numbers keep changing, the [08:08] salesman is still calling you a week [08:09] later, harassing you. Wheels to Lease [08:12] exists so you never have to do that [08:14] again. One call, and they go to work for [08:16] you. 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You get You get given [10:36] a tutor and I remember working, you [10:39] know, [10:40] every day through the syllabus. [10:43] And going through and baruch Hashem, the [10:45] the the journey was [10:47] relatively straightforward because [10:50] firstly, they want you to live in a [10:51] Jewish area. I lived in a Jewish area. [10:54] You know, they wanted you to commit to [10:56] tutoring and to lessons. I did that and [10:59] just [11:00] really immersed myself [11:02] in the whole [11:04] geirus process. So, 18 months later, I [11:06] was a convert. [11:07] Um and that started and that was 17 [11:11] years ago. [11:13] And that really started [11:15] the whole process for me. But something [11:16] happened when I was a convert. [11:20] And the next [11:22] day, during the process, my parents were [11:25] as I started telling them about it, [11:27] first obviously, they were upset. [11:30] And then there was a level of [11:32] understanding, maybe respect. They came [11:35] over at the time to meet my rabbi. [11:38] They came over to see the community I [11:40] was a part of, and they left, you know, [11:43] feeling a sense of relief that I wasn't [11:45] joining a cult or anything like that, [11:47] but uh uh [11:50] felt a sense that, "Okay, if this is [11:51] what if Pete wants to do, [11:54] um [11:55] and I'll go by Ariel to So, if you've [11:57] got smicha, you can call me Ariel. If [11:59] you know, most people call me Pete. And [12:04] they left and they felt they felt [12:07] comfortable about what my process was. [12:09] And I think what made it easier was [12:10] because [12:12] I'd already been living away from my [12:13] parents in a different country for 6 [12:16] years. So, it wasn't like all of a [12:17] sudden I I wasn't going to them for [12:19] Friday night and I'm going to the [12:21] Goldbergs for Friday night dinner, you [12:22] know? So, it was nothing that was in [12:24] their face. It was a level of respect, a [12:27] way that I could show that [12:30] I can be this, you can be that, and we [12:32] can still all get along, and you know, [12:35] um [12:36] down the line, I've [12:37] you know, my wife has been amazing with [12:39] how she's embraced my family and and and [12:42] the and my parents, I think they've got [12:44] a lot of nachas having Jewish grandkids, [12:47] actually. It's been phenomenal to see. [12:49] But, my mom told me something. [12:52] So, the next day she phoned me up and [12:54] she said, "I need to tell you a story [12:56] >> [snorts] [12:57] >> about Rebecca." So, I'm sitting down. [13:01] And she said, [13:03] "Listen, I was older, you were the [13:05] youngest [13:06] of five kids. My oldest sibling, for [13:09] example, is I'm 43, my older sibling is [13:11] 63. My parents are in their 80s. [13:15] She did not want to have me [13:17] at the age that she was at at that [13:19] stage. She thought that [13:22] termination would be a a better process. [13:25] And like in Judaism, Catholicism, you [13:28] know, abortion is is ossur. [13:31] So, but she also wasn't the sort of [13:33] person to ask her priest a shailah on [13:37] it. She didn't know what to do. [13:40] But there was this person whose name was [13:42] Rebecca, and as she's telling me the [13:43] story, this Rebecca who was an older [13:45] woman [13:46] always wore black [13:48] started coming into her life. And she [13:50] came into her life three times. [13:53] My mom never knew the significance of of [13:55] this uh [13:56] of this Rebecca. [13:59] And on the third time she saw my mother, [14:01] my mother was crying. And she said, "Why [14:03] are you crying?" [14:04] And she said, "Something [14:06] is on my mind. Something is bothering [14:08] me." [14:10] So, this Rebecca pulled a Tanakh out of [14:13] her handbag. Now, you I've got to give [14:15] this context because my family came from [14:17] Brisbane. [14:19] And [14:20] 30 minutes north of Bris- Brisbane, an [14:22] island called Redcliffe. There are no [14:24] Yidden on this island, you know? [14:26] So, for a woman to pull a Tanakh out of [14:29] her handbag where there's no Jews, maybe [14:31] you could [14:32] understand this story in Borough Park or [14:34] in Stamford Hill in London, but not in [14:36] Redcliffe. [14:38] And she pulled the [14:40] Tanakh out of her handbag. [14:42] And she said, "I want you to do [14:43] something. I want you just to open it up [14:45] to any page. Open up to any page, point, [14:49] and let's read together." [14:50] I now know, I didn't know at the time, I [14:52] now know that that is a very [14:54] well-known thing, a a girl or a graph. [14:56] >> Sure. [14:57] >> And I think that's how you correct me if [14:59] I'm wrong, but Rav Moshe came to [15:01] Feinstein came to to America through [15:03] that. [15:04] I I think [15:06] >> I think, yeah. I I've heard that story, [15:08] yeah. [15:08] >> So, [15:09] >> Yeah, which which pasuk? Which chapter [15:11] is it? [15:11] >> So, the pasuk that she turned to [15:14] was the Haftorah that we read um [15:17] during the three weeks, Mattos. [15:20] And she read she pointed at this [15:22] but Aaron it's her hot the bottom your [15:25] daughter but Aaron Taser Marikina [15:28] hakadosh Taser [15:30] no villain going no satire. And that's [15:33] his in English yet before I formed you [15:36] in the belly. [15:37] I recognized you and yet you emerge from [15:40] the womb. I dedicated you a prophet to [15:42] the nations. I have appointed you. [15:47] In this possuk [15:49] was in my house in Australia. [15:51] And I never in English I never knew the [15:54] significance of it. I never asked. [15:58] And my mother told me that this Rebecca [16:02] who after speaking with some rabbonim [16:05] I'm now convinced it was it was Rivka [16:07] imenu. [16:08] Why? [16:09] Because they told me that there is a [16:11] similar story [16:13] with a lady whose name was Rachel who [16:15] they think was Rachel imenu at the [16:17] Kosel. [16:18] She was old. She wore all black. [16:21] And did the whole girl or graph thing [16:23] where a woman wanted to have children. [16:27] She couldn't and opened up a Tanakh [16:29] pointed at the possuk. But this [16:32] Rebecca or Rivka whoever she was, you [16:35] know, my mother never saw her again. She [16:37] never considered termination. She had [16:39] me. [16:40] And she never said anything about [16:41] >> And she was convinced because of this [16:43] Rebecca. [16:44] >> Convinced, yeah. And and then Rebecca [16:47] left her and she was so clear after that [16:49] that I need to have this child. 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[20:07] And when you look at it at a deeper [20:09] level, the person who it was, [20:12] so, [20:13] Rebecca, Rivka, and the children that [20:15] she had, Eisav and Yaakov, and her [20:18] internal struggle between Eisav, Rome, [20:22] Western society, and Yaakov. [20:26] And [20:27] maybe me having my own internal struggle [20:31] and [20:32] coming to Yiddishkeit at the age of 26, [20:35] Yud-Keh-Vav-Keh, [20:36] the age of 26. [20:38] There was there was some meaning in it [20:39] and I never really knew the significance [20:42] of the pasuk. I knew it, but until I [20:45] started speaking to to people about it, [20:47] to to different rabbonim, and hence how [20:49] you found me. Um but [20:53] she never saw Rebecca again. Um and from [20:56] there, you know, that was [20:58] my mother told me 17 years ago. [21:01] From there, [21:03] you know, I've never looked back. [21:05] I went through shidduchim. [21:07] 3 years into I I met my my wife. It's [21:09] actually our our 12th [21:11] wedding anniversary today. [21:12] >> Happy anniversary. [21:14] >> Thank you. [21:15] Um got three children. I'm very proud to [21:18] say as well that something that I've [21:20] always pushed myself with was was the [21:23] learning. I remember in the beginning my [21:25] rabbi at the time, I was trying to start [21:27] daf yomi. He's like, "Just slow down. [21:29] Like, just be my guy first." [21:31] Um [21:33] and baruch Hashem, I've now finished [21:35] shas twice. I'm on my third cycle. And [21:38] I've found [21:39] a lot of meaning [21:41] living an Orthodox life. A lot of [21:43] meaning, a lot of purpose [21:46] being a frum yid and raising three [21:50] beautiful children [21:51] in an Orthodox home. [21:53] Um [21:55] and my wife's been [21:56] amazing with my family [21:59] um back in Australia and we've been able [22:00] to find that balance when we go back [22:02] home. [22:03] And um [22:08] I never knew where this journey was [22:09] going to take me at the time when I went [22:12] to the shiva, [22:13] you know, 17 years ago. [22:15] I didn't know that [22:18] Pete had an Ariel in him. [22:20] I didn't know [22:21] about the possuk, the Yaakov and Eisav. [22:25] We actually [22:26] I've since done a lot of research on [22:28] that on that possuk and that's actually [22:30] it's in a Gemara as well in Niddah. [22:33] Um and this is the the famous Gemara [22:36] about that all children know all of [22:39] Torah inside of the womb [22:41] and that our tachlis is already sort of [22:45] preordained, so to speak. [22:48] Um [22:49] and you know, you've got your own [22:51] business, [22:52] you know, as a frum yid, [22:54] it's [22:55] you've got to find that balance between [22:57] minyanim and learning and family and at [23:00] the same time I've been able to grow a [23:02] fitness business. I've found a lot of [23:04] passion, a lot of driving just trying to [23:06] help [23:07] >> [snorts] [23:07] >> men all across the world, mainly [23:09] America, some in England, some in [23:10] Australia, just find, feel like [23:13] themselves again. A lot of guys that [23:15] maybe had prioritized career at the [23:19] expense of their health. Um, and having [23:24] having the structure of [23:26] a religious home behind me, I think has [23:28] been [23:30] able to allow me to just to keep sort of [23:32] moving forward, never looking over my [23:34] shoulder. And it's the you know, the [23:36] journey's been [23:37] the journey has been what it's been [23:39] meant to be. And [23:40] >> I'm thinking of your story, [23:42] particularly what happened with with [23:44] your mother and this Rebecca or Rifka. [23:47] And I'm trying to think like on one end [23:49] it is unbelievable if it really was [23:52] Rifka, but I'm also thinking even if it [23:55] wasn't, I guess we'll never really know. [23:57] >> We'll never know. [23:57] >> But like even if it was just this random [23:59] Jewish lady, again, I don't know why she [24:01] was there, it's also really cool. Like [24:04] who knows that like this random lady was [24:06] just trying to like give your mother a [24:08] chizuk and in the end [24:10] she didn't have an abortion and then [24:12] this kid who's, you know, [snorts] [24:14] magically [24:15] came to this world and ends up becoming [24:18] Jewish. Like it's [24:19] Either way, it's really cool. [24:21] >> for a good story. It really does. And [24:25] I [24:26] I think there is something in it though, [24:27] that the fact that [24:29] this Rebecca was only three times. She [24:32] only saw her three times. [24:34] And on the third time was was the whole [24:36] possuk, was opening up the Tanakh, [24:38] keeping, you know, in her handbag. [24:41] You've you've got to understand the [24:43] context. Like I need to sort of sell it [24:45] to you even more. Like there aren't Jews [24:47] in in in Redcliffe, [laughter] in this [24:49] island. It's [24:50] >> Right. Do you feel a pressure that like [24:52] if that if that is the case that like [24:54] like from a I don't know, biblical kind [24:56] of level that like, "Hey, [24:58] >> I feel No, I feel like [25:01] every time I put my tzitzit on, I feel [25:03] an obligation to represent the Jewish [25:05] people. [25:06] Whether it's with my speech or my [25:08] action, 100% you know, I want to hold [25:11] myself to a to a level that we're all [25:13] judged on. [25:15] And but not to be [25:19] the average, you know, to go above that. [25:22] Whether it's with the community, with [25:24] tzedakah, with [25:26] just helping. [25:28] Um, so [25:30] I think and I think things change once [25:31] you have children as well. And I have a [25:35] I feel like I've got a huge obligation [25:36] to [25:37] to my kids to give them a home that they [25:40] deserve. You know, my wife comes from a [25:42] religious background from a Yerushalmi [25:44] family. [25:45] >> [snorts] [25:45] >> Um [25:47] and [25:48] they deserve to have that continuity and [25:50] consistency and and [25:52] and like what any frum home would would [25:55] have with their kids. So, yeah, I'm [25:57] constantly thinking about you know, my [25:59] journey from the beginning [26:01] to where I've got to now and and that [26:04] I'm always doing the right thing and [26:05] always moving forward in the right way. [26:08] >> That's really beautiful. I'm curious, [26:09] what advice would you have for someone [26:12] who's feeling a lack of direction? [26:15] They're they're not feeling that they [26:18] have a purpose here. What what advice [26:20] would you give to them? [26:22] >> I think you I think you need to [26:24] be honest with yourself about [26:28] what it is that you are looking for in [26:30] life. [26:32] Is it [26:33] to be a better person, companionship, [26:36] whatever the case may be, but [26:43] I don't think people believe in [26:44] themselves enough. I think people don't [26:46] I don't think people back themselves [26:48] enough. [26:49] And [26:50] I also think that [26:53] prayer [26:55] is underused. If we call out to Hashem, [26:59] he'll generally answer. [27:01] And [27:02] takless, you'll see that message. [27:04] >> I'll correct you. He'll always answer, [27:06] but but but more more times than you [27:09] realize he'll say yes to and not no. [27:11] >> But I think the thing is people don't [27:13] call out enough. [27:15] And if you call out, you'll you'll find [27:17] that message. And for me, I found it in [27:21] you know, [27:22] it was beshet that [27:24] I was supposed to meet this rabbi. [27:26] And that at that stage in my life as a [27:29] 26-year-old. And I don't think that [27:31] there is any [27:33] coincidence about that. That 26 is [27:36] Yud Kay Vav Kay. But that was [27:38] [clears throat] when my journey started. [27:40] Um [27:42] >> Yeah. [27:43] Do you still remember whose house you [27:45] went to shabbat? Or like [27:47] >> Yeah. Yeah, still remember. [27:48] >> Do they know the impact? Why wouldn't [27:51] you tell You should tell them. [27:53] >> Well, the rabbi the rabbi knows, 100%. [27:56] >> No, but even the the shiva. I feel like [27:59] like again, it's been a while at this [28:00] point, but think of again, it's so sad [28:03] that that person died, but that person [28:05] who died because of that, you are where [28:08] you are right now. It's pretty I mean, [28:09] there's a lot of crazy stories that [28:11] happened because you're here now, but [28:12] like that was a very [28:14] big turning point in your [28:15] >> Maybe I'll start a Friday night minyan. [28:17] >> Yeah, I don't know. [28:18] I whatever I it's it's got to be a [28:20] ultimate like nachama or nachas for that [28:23] person who died. Like they know the full [28:25] picture cuz they're up there now. But [28:26] like look look what happened because of [28:28] that. [28:29] It's crazy. [28:30] You know what? Let me ask you before we [28:31] go. Ariel, [28:32] >> Yes. [28:33] >> who chose your name and why that name? [28:35] >> I chose it. I remember [28:37] that my rabbi at the time was very [28:39] gung-ho about me having a [28:41] double-barreled [28:43] name. He wanted like a Yisrael Meir sort [28:45] of name. [28:45] >> Mhm. [28:46] >> I think [28:50] Ariel worked for me. [28:52] Um I ended up marrying a Shulamit. Mhm. [28:55] Ariel is the name of the misbecha in [28:57] Jerusalem. Shulamit comes from shalemut, [28:59] complete, which is also the name of [29:01] Jerusalem. [29:02] And um [29:03] working [29:04] >> Perfect shidduch. [29:04] >> Yeah. [29:05] >> Really beautiful. Pete, thank you so [29:07] much for coming on and uh sharing your [29:09] story. [29:09] >> Pleasure. Thanks for having me. [29:10] >> Sure. If this episode hit you a little [29:13] differently, type the word reason in the [29:15] comments [music] and tell me this, what [29:16] do you believe you are here to do? And [29:18] also, question for you, we're trying to [29:20] experiment. This obviously is a shorter [29:22] episode. Do you like shorter episodes? [29:23] Do you want longer episodes? Do you want [29:25] 5-hour episodes? Let us know and we'll [29:27] try our best to make everyone happy. [29:29] Now, I've been thinking about Pete's [29:30] story. One conversation, a woman whose [29:32] name we may never know, stopped a mother [29:34] on the hardest day of her life and [29:35] talked her into choosing life. And I [29:38] don't know, I'm curious. Do [music] you [29:39] think it was like one of the emos or [29:41] something like that? Everything Pete has [29:43] done since, every person he has reached, [29:45] traces back to that one moment. If she [29:47] had walked the other way, there would be [29:48] no Pete. And here's what I take out from [29:50] this episode. None of us are here by [29:51] accident. You were put here for a [29:53] reason, with a mission that only you can [29:55] do. But most of us forget. We drift. We [29:57] totally doomscroll. We waste days like [29:59] they are unlimited. Pete can't forget. [30:02] He wakes up every day knowing his life [30:03] was almost taken before it started. And [30:05] that every day since is a gift with a [30:09] purpose attached. So, look at your life [30:11] the way Pete has to look at his. The [30:12] people in your life, the hardest thing [30:14] you've been through, the talents you're [30:15] given, none of it is random. Hashem did [30:18] not bring you this far [music] or here [30:20] for nothing. You are here for a reason. [30:23] And that's what life is. [music] You got [30:24] to figure out what that reason is. And [30:26] there's also one more idea that I was [30:28] thinking. This mysterious woman that had [30:29] no idea what she was setting in motion. [30:31] She just spoke up. You might be that [30:33] person for someone else and never even [30:35] know it. So, say the words. It might be [30:37] the reason somebody is here. Thanks [30:39] again to our wonderful sponsors, Qualify [30:42] Protein, Woodmont College, Kol HaNearim, [30:44] BF Design, and Wheels 2 Lease. Until [30:46] next time, remember, inspiration is [30:48] everywhere. L'Chaim. [30:51] Living L'Chaim.
